Also, there are other possible explanations. The evidence for this, though, has been elusive. The basic idea is that the people you feel most different from in childhood become the target of your later sexual attractions, with gender non-conformers tending toward same-sex attractions and gender conformers tending toward opposite-sex attractions. Some psychologists believe gay men’s apparent attraction to masculinity stems from a general tendency for people to eroticize traits that are different from their own-the “ exotic becomes erotic” theory, as it’s known. “Gay men have fetishized straight men to some degree based on seeing them as more masculine,” says Joe Kort, a gay sex and relationship psychotherapist who works primarily with an LGBTQ+ client base. To be clear, there is wide individual variability-but if gay men tend to be attracted to masculinity and straight men as a group are more likely to conform to masculine gender roles, then it’s not hard to see why so many gay men would be searching for porn featuring straight guys.
Study after study has found that gay men are less gender-conforming than straight men on average, meaning that they’re less likely to adhere to strict ideas of what boys and men are “supposed” to act like. This helps explain why “Masc4Masc” is such a common term on gay dating and hookup sites. This preference for masculinity is strongest among gay men who identify as masculine. Gay men also rate prospective partners who describe themselves as masculine more favorably than those who describe themselves as feminine.
For example, gay men tend to be attracted to masculine-looking faces and to other signs of masculinity, such as muscularity. I’m a rugged bottom that likes it outdoors – and I’m not ashamed to admit it.Research into the partner preferences of gay men suggests that, on average, they tend to be drawn to masculinity. After all, when you reflect upon it, bottoms are the ones who are truly in control when you’re inside. The next time you think you’re in charge because you’re on top, think again. Not all of us fit the stereotypes some people assign to us. Do you think you are man enough to handle a good, thick 8-inch log drilling through your sphincter?įor that matter, could you handle something massive going deep inside without whimpering like a woosy? If you are the type who likes to bottom shame, I bet you totally can’t!īottoms come in a variety of shapes, colors and sizes. To the gays who think this, let me ask you something. In fact, there’s a term for this called bottom shaming. A lot of us are rugged and like it outdoorsĭon’t ask me why but there are a lot of gay men in our community who seem to think that all bottoms are effeminate. It’s also one of the manliest things you’ll ever do. If you’ve never chomped down on bark while the guy behind you drives it inside you – I’m here to tell you it’s the next best thing to sliced bread. I’m not ashamed to admit that I like it when a guy tears apart my hole and uses his spit for personal lubricant. Getting topped by a guy in a tent, wooded cabin or over a tree-stump is just fine by me.